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Every year, I receive a few heartfelt emails from families who have worked with a doula. They often ask, “What’s a good gift to give my doula?” These emails usually include wonderful snippets of their birth stories and why they want to express gratitude. Here’s my advice:
Doulas don’t expect gifts. They’re honored to have been invited into such a special time in your life. The best gift you can give is a heartfelt letter sharing what their support meant to you. A personal note can mean the world to a doula, capturing moments they’ll treasure forever.
That said, many families want to include a tangible gesture alongside their letter. If that’s you, here are some thoughtful ideas, including recommendations from other doulas:
1. Write a Review
Take a few minutes to leave a glowing review of their services. Check where they collect reviews, such as MeetYourDoula.com, their Facebook page, Yelp, Doula Match, or other platforms. If you’re not sure where to post, simply ask your doula. Reviews not only show your appreciation but also help them connect with future clients.
2. Donate to a Cause
Consider donating to a charity your doula supports. If you’re unsure which one they’d appreciate, organizations like March for Moms or Black Mamas Matter Alliance are excellent choices. Donations to these causes honor your doula’s work while making a positive impact.
3. Gift Cards
Practical and always appreciated, gift cards to favorite eateries or coffee shops are a great way to say thank you. After a long birth, a quick meal or coffee can make a doula’s day.
4. Contribute to a Scholarship Fund
Ask your doula if they have a scholarship fund to help other families access their services. Making a donation in their name is a meaningful way to give back and pay their kindness forward.
5. Tools and Supplies
If you know your doula well, consider giving them tools or supplies they can use personally or professionally. Items like massage tools, lotions, or other items for their doula bag can be thoughtful gifts, but these are often personal choices. If you’re unsure, a gift card is a safe option.
6. Buy them a Doula T-Shirt or Tote
Give your doula the gift of a t-shirt or tote to proudly proclaim the work they do. This is a fun way for them to share their passion for the work of helping families. See the doula tee shirt and tote library here.
7. Build Their Resource Library
Doulas often maintain a resource library for their clients. If your doula enjoys adding to theirs, ask if there are specific books they’d love to receive or give them a gift certificate to their favorite bookstore. If you’d like to gift a physical book, two excellent options include:
Thoughtful All Year Round
These gift ideas aren’t just for post-birth gestures—they’re great for the holidays or birthdays too. What would you add to this list? Share your favorite doula gift ideas in the community.
